Couples cannot avoid the issues that are bound to come up in the course of a lifetime together. In premarital counseling they have the opportunity to face issues that might not arise naturally for years. Counseling is like compressing time to see a likely, realistic outcome of a marriage. Sometimes, the process can seem like a pressure-cooker. Couples may prefer to turn away from that disturbing reflection rather than use it to mold a relationship that could work. More often, couples come away with important insights about themselves, their partner, and how they interact—which can help them navigate the road ahead.
We all want marriage to work. Couples don't want to hear judgments that their marriage will work or not. They trust their own judgment. In counseling, we explore areas where they are compatible as well as areas that could present conflicts. Then we talk about how to deal with them. In the course of six-90 minute sessions, we make use of all the resources available to make ourselves visible to each other, and make our choices known.
Premarital counseling is a gift of confidence. After looking closely at all these concerns, a couple can walk down the aisle with certainty and trust rather than cold feet. It is a gift to the children who may come from the marriage, that their parents cared enough to ask the hard questions and take their best chance on building a happy home. For potential in-laws, counseling is a great gift to give to preweds. It helps the couple in realistic ways, and removes yourself - the family - from the uncomfortable role of offering unwelcome opinions or playing therapist.
"As my wedding gift to you, I include one free follow-up session for the newlyweds 6-9 months after the wedding to check in on new developments and address issues that have come up."
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